Life Lines Membership

What are the benefits of a Life Lines Membership?

With a $10 a month  Life Lines Membership, you can:

  • Participate in a minimum of one new Live & Online meditation and/or wellness workshop each month
  • Gain access to a bank of archived, live-streamed Mindfulness-based meditations and workshops from past Live & Online sessions
  • Suggest new topics or themes you would like explored in future Live & Online sessions
  • Enjoy the positive effects of Mindfulness-based practices and self-hypnosis on your mind, body, and spirit.

Plus, for an additional cost, you can:

  • Live chat with me up to 4 times per month
  • Get private guidance with a 30-minute breakthrough coaching call.

NOTE: The first 10 people to join this membership receive a free, one time only,  30-minute breakthrough coaching call worth $80 USD.

 

How the Life Lines membership was born…

In January 2019, one of my former writing students committed suicide. She was 23 years old.

She’d made it through high school, where I’d met her. She’d graduated from university with a B.A. in English Lit. She was in the process of becoming a teacher.

Emilie had an infectious smile and the bluest of eyes; she spoke quickly and vibrated visibly when she talked about things that interested her.

On the surface, she appeared to have survived the vagaries of growing up in a world that fights hard to imprison us in childhood.

I’d seen her a couple of months before her death, in the little soap shop she worked at while completing her Teacher’s Ed. She’d seemed fine.

I was filling gift bags for the participants of a writing retreat I was hosting that weekend. She was helpful and friendly. We chatted and laughed.

I thought of inviting her along. I had an open spot. She, like many of my past writing students, held a special place in my heart.

“I could give it to her for free,” I thought.

But she seemed fine.

And, it was last minute.

And, I’d have felt awkward if she’d said no.

Life Lines was born out of Emilie’s death. When I heard that she was gone, I felt gutted. I felt confused. Then, I felt guilty. My mind began to hum with shame–I should have been able to look past her friendliness and cheer and see deep into her pain.

I should have been able to be there for her at the exact moment that could have saved her.

And yet, I knew, even then, that her death was not about me. It would be incredibly egotistical to think so.

The truth is that countless people have shared the same regret. After all, Emilie was loved by many.

But…I help people transform their lives…every day. It’s what I do. It’s how I see myself.

And so, the morning I found out that she was gone, I cried. And then, I took out a poster paper and stuck it to the wall in my kitchen.

I thought: “This shouldn’t have happened,” and wrote her name across the top.

That poster stayed on my wall all of January, February, March, April, May, and into June. Yellow Post-its began clustering around it as ideas for blog posts sprung up in my mind. For all the Emilies, I kept thinking.

I even started a blog on my Teachable site (a platform for creating courses). It was very literary. It didn’t do what I wanted it to. I stalled.

And then, in late June one of my clients told me that it’s the mental tools I give him–the insights, ideas, and techniques–that really help him. He said, “My mind goes 1000 miles a minute 24/7 and I don’t have time for big things.” 

Shortly after, I asked my Facebook supporters for possible titles for what I wanted to do here, and someone who’d come to a live workshop I’d given suggested, “Life Lines.”

She explained: “Sometimes a line can save a life or might just be what a person needs to provoke positive thought and motivation.”

And I thought: “Yes, that’s it. That’s what I want it to be. That’s what I want it to do.”

Around that time, I was having lunch with a former client and friend who was deep in her grief after losing her mom. At one point, she said, “I will definitely come back to you when the dust settles.”

“When the dust settles.”

 

There was a time when I kept waiting for the dust to settle. When I didn’t have time for big things. When I wondered why my world was spinning out of control and I felt like I’d lost sight of the ground.

And, once, a long, long time ago, there was a time when I thought life wasn’t worth living and dreamed of the perfect suicide.

But I was lucky. My mind was always searching for those trails to follow. It was always looking for answers. And there were always life lines…little saving graces…that brought me back to earth and allowed me to stand my ground even when there was no ground to stand on.

Sometimes, they came from books. Sometimes, they came from people. Sometimes, they were little actions I could take or ideas I came across that blossomed in my mind like great, unfolding pink peonies that changed my perception forever.

Eventually, over time, I began gathering them all up and they became life lessons–survival tools–hope. I gathered and gathered because that is what I do.

In his book The Biology of Desire: Why Addiction is Not a Disease, neuroscientist Marc Lewis describes a radical addiction treatment initiative in the United Kingdom called Reach Out Recovery (ROR).

He explains that the goal of the campaign is “to be there for addicts at the very moment when their desire for change is ignited.”

He says:

Shopkeepers, including newsagents, bakers, butchers, and pharmacists, are trained in brief interventions. Their “recovery-friendly” shops display an ROR sticker on the front window so addicts are aware that they can go there for help. People come off the street, perhaps buying a loaf of bread at the same time, and say, “I’ve had enough! I’m ready to quit!” Then the shopkeeper tells them they’ve come to the right place, takes a quick inventory, and advises them on what to do next. I hope this blog can do that for people who need hope or guidance or motivation–be there at the very moment they need it–offer them “a line that can save a life.”

And so, for all the Emilies and everyone in between, I’ve created this membership program.

It has been a start/stop process.

I am, after all, also still waiting for the dust to settle.

 

What I hope Life Lines will do for you

In a chapter entitled “What If We Considered Imagination Vital to Our Health,” Rob Hopkins, author of From What Is to What If: Unleashing the Imagination to Create the Future We Want (2019), argues that anxiety is a major factor impeding our ability to imagine a positive future.

He explains how sustained anxiety can damage the hippocampus, the part of our brain which remembers the past and imagines the future. “Once the hippocampus has been damaged,” he explains, “we begin to experience everyday events as more stressful, negative potential future events may come to mind more easily and we may seek out information that confirms an increasingly pessimistic world view.”

In other words, the more stressed we are, the more negative we become; and the more negative we become, the more stressed we are.

“This vicious cycle,” he states, “results in the release of more cortisol and more damage to the hippocampus.”

So, if stress is damaging our ability to imagine a better tomorrow, what are we to do? How can we, individually and collectively, ever hope to change the world for the better?

Hopkins discusses the need to provide people with physical “spaces of safety and hope.” He describes Art Angel, a comprehensive and innovative art therapy program founded in the UK in 1997, as one such space.

He explains how it “offers people the personal warmth and connection that should be part of all psychiatric care, as well as structure, routine, community, and the chance to create something tangible and meaningful.”

It leaves the artists (not referred to as clients or patients) feeling a renewed sense of hope and a regained ability to see positive elements in the world around them. Even more importantly, they begin to imagine a better future for themselves and the actions they could take to make it happen.

“Indeed,” he explains, “at Art Angel I started to get a taste of what rebuilding the collective imagination might look like.”

And, he assures us, those places of safety and hope don’t necessarily need to be art based: “They could just as well be gardening, or welding, or building, or cooking, or baking, or working in the woods, or making music, or dancing, or meditating, or space to sit and talk with other people, or working with animals. It could be school, if school were different to how it is today.”

If we can rest and restore our minds and bodies in physical spaces of safety and hope, it stands to reason that we can rest and restore our minds and bodies in mental spaces of safety and hope.
As a hypnotist and student of the unconscious mind, I know how effectively the stories we tell ourselves and the ones we are told by others can shape our reality. Since the brain cannot tell the difference between what is and what is not, whatever trauma we witness, whether in real life or in fiction, the brain records as true.

What that means, essentially, is that if a person is ingesting a daily dose of stress-inducing reality and following it up with a dollop of end-of-the-world fiction, be that in the form of a movie, tv series, or video game, the result is going to be heightened anxiety and depression, and more damage to the hippocampus.

It is my hope…my goal…that by creating Life Lines I will: first, provide a virtual space of safety and hope where people can rest, relax and rejuvenate; and secondly, bring members into a state of mental well-being that might inspire them to imagine a healthier future for themselves, their communities and the world.

 

Who am I?

If you’re reading this information on my website, you might already know I’m a clinical hypnotist and mindful living coach, and the founder and owner of MindBodySpirit Integrated Wellness Centre.

I help my clients become, or return to, a more authentic version of themselves (you know, that person we were all supposed to be before the world taught us how it thought we should to be?).

I work with people who want to make big changes or achieve some big results such as gaining confidence, letting go of negative habits, freeing themselves from the past, releasing fears, or accepting themselves as they are.

I help kick-start instant change using hypnotic techniques and then help my clients create an action plan to stay super focused so that they make the changes or achieve the results that they want.

I support my clients in their personal transformation by providing services such as hypnosis, lifestyle coaching, mindfulness meditation, EFT and more.

I’m also a poet, a former high school English teacher and all around lifelong learner.

As I mentioned above, I follow trails. It’s what I do. I follow trails in search of answers to questions like, “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?”

And, although I know these are questions everyone asks, I feel like I’ve been consciously searching for their answers my whole life. In every person I’ve met, every book I’ve read, every course I’ve taken, I’ve searched for the answers. 

My pursuit has lead me to reading, writing, art, music, yoga, meditation, Buddhism, the study of the unconscious mind and, most recently, energy healing.

I’ve come to understand that, at my core, I am a gatherer. That’s who I am. I gather ideas, teachings, philosophies and knowledge from everywhere. I keep what I feel is true and then share it with others. 

Through this site I’d like to continue to share these ideas, teachings, philosophies and knowledge with as many people possible.

That’s why I’m here. 

If you’re ready to become a member, click I AM READY!

NOTE: The first 10 people to join this membership receive a free, one time only,  30-minute breakthrough coaching call worth $80 USD.

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